Hi, I'm Pari.
I'm a Class 12 student at Vasant Valley School in Delhi. My subjects are Maths, Economics, Business Studies, English — and the one that hijacked my entire brain: Psychology.
Everyone in my stream is gunning for finance. I am too, technically. But somewhere between the demand curves and the balance sheets, I figured out that every market, transaction, dinner-table argument, and bad first date is just psychology in a costume.
So I started cooking. This blog is where I plate it up — no jargon, no stuffy lectures. Just the stuff that made me go "wait, THAT'S why?" at 1 AM.
"The id wants what it wants."
When I knew I was cooked.
We were in class, going through the neo-Freudians — Adler, Jung, Horney. The chapter hit the section on only-child characteristics: center of attention, mature for their age, accustomed to adult company, occasionally a bit too convinced their opinion is the correct one.
Reader. I am an only child.
It read like a horoscope that had actually done its homework. Every line was a polite roast. And for the first time, school wasn't telling me a fact — it was telling me about me. I closed the textbook and went, "okay wait. What else does this book know about me that I don't?"
That was the moment psychology stopped being a subject and started being a mirror.
I didn't learn this from a book.
Most of what I know about how people work, I didn't pick up from textbooks. I picked it up from my dad, who can argue with me for four hours straight about anything — politics, relationships, why I think I'm right when I'm clearly wrong, why he thinks he's right when he's clearly wrong.
I picked it up from watching my friends fall in love badly, fall out of love worse, and explain it all back to me with a vocabulary borrowed from Instagram therapists. (No shade. Some of them are right.)
I picked it up by being the only kid in a room of adults for most of my childhood, watching grown-ups perform "normal" very poorly.
So if you're here for "I read Freud once and my life changed" — sorry, dodo. That's not the story. The story is more like: I've been noticing for years, and psych finally gave me the vocabulary to describe what I was already seeing.
What I want from you.
Read these articles. Walk away questioning something you took for granted. Why you scroll. Why you fight with your mom. Why you fall for who you fall for. Why "common sense" is usually just common — not sense.
I don't want you to agree with me. I want you to argue back. Comment. Email. Text the article to a friend with "ok but is this real???". That's the point.
Two things I won't shut up about.
Karen Horney
Freud said women have penis envy. Horney looked at him, the entire field, and the century, and said: "Have you considered that men have womb envy?" Maybe the obsession with building, achieving, leaving a legacy is just compensation for not being able to create life. Spicy. Discuss.
Most "dating advice" is just trauma in a hat.
Half the "rules" people swear by are class-coded, culture-coded, or someone's personal heartbreak rebranded as universal wisdom. My friends and I fight about this constantly. A full spicy take is coming — stay seated.
Wait — why "Id Eat That"?
In Freudian psychology, the Idis the most primal part of your mind. It's raw instinct. Pure desire. The voice that says "I want that NOW" before your rational brain even wakes up.
"Id Eat That" is that voice — but for knowledge. It's the part of you that's unapologetically curious, that devours ideas, that can't stop asking "but why?"
Also, it's a pun. Because every good psych blog needs at least one Freudian slip.
For the speed-readers.
- Name
- Pari Darmora
- School
- Vasant Valley School, Delhi
- Class
- 12
- Subjects
- Maths, Econ, BSt, Psych, English
- Sibling count
- Zero (more on that below)
- Currently obsessed with
- Karen Horney
My Psychology Menu
Cognitive Biases
🌶️ SpicyWhy your brain lies to you — and how to catch it
Social Psychology
🍛 HeartyHow groups shape who we are and what we believe
Behavioral Psychology
🍿 SnackableThe science behind your habits, good and bad
Positive Psychology
🍵 ComfortingWhat actually makes people happy (spoiler: not money)
Developmental Psych
🍰 SweetHow we grow, change, and become who we are
Abnormal Psychology
📖 DeepUnderstanding mental health without the stigma
Ready to eat?
Start with the menu, pick your flavor, and dig in. I'll be in the kitchen.
Browse the menu →— Chef Pari